Know what you want in a guy. Can you really say what kind of guy you are looking for?

Many guys just want sex until they decide to mature. Many girls are ok with this and just use the guy for sex too and they don’t understand that this changes you and you start to become a certain type of person. 

Many don’t want to make that commitment or mature because there is no risk if they just have sex and not make a marriage commitment. No child support, no alimony no responsibility. Therefore they make up these lame reasons that they don’t like marriage telling you that you don’t need to get married to be in love.

When they mature they then want to get married to a beautiful girl and expect her to not have slept with lots of guys yet it seems ok that they slept with lots of girls? When a guy that has slept around finds a girl that has not they tend not to be good matches and many of these type of relationships breakup more quickly.

Find a guy that has matured enough that he will stick around and be there for you. Better yet find a guy that has not been a male slut and a guy that is not a party type guy because he will be a much better husband and father to your kids than some guy that always is watching sports, drinking beer or out with his friends. Find a guy that really does respect you for who you are inside.

You will draw a guy to you that is a bit like you so if you want these things in a guy you should start becoming that type of girl.

How do you see yourself?

What HE is thinking:                             What SHE is thinking

SEX                                                   Cuddling

Sex on the beach                                 Walking hand in hand on a moonlit beach

Sex on the Kitchen table                        A candle lit dinner laid out on the table

Sex in a public place                           You, holding her hand or kissing her in public

Sex with a supermodel                         Sex with a movie star

Phone sex                                          You, telling her how much you love her

Oral sex                                             Oral sex

Her, waking you up with oral sex             You waking her up with a massage

Tearing clothes off and a quickie             Getting dressed up to go dancing

Her, in a Wonder Woman Costume            You, as Superman keeping her safe

1. Do I want this girl or guy to be the mother or father of my kids? Would they be a good mother or father? Are they selfish? Qualify your gf or bf before you tell them you will love them no matter what………

Will you still love him when he does not have a job and lays around all day drinking beer and getting fat while you work?

2. What do their parents look like because most likely they will end up looking like the parents and acting like the parents in many cases. Do you get along with the parents? Hey, looks are only part of it, are they nice?

Do you really want him doing this at family parties or just at home?

1. You can expect to be lied to so plan on it. He or she will say things and not mean them in order to get what they want. Most teens are not very mature so plan on things happening that will piss you off.

If he or she is not willing to marry you because they say it will ruin everything it really means: I’m not ready to be in a real relationship right now so I am going to use you for the time being and I don’t want any responsibility for it either.

2. Not much, don’t expect a whole hellava lot from your teenage relationship. If you think your in love, most likely your in love with the idea of being in love rather than being in love with him or her.Most teen relationships do not last so enjoy them while you are in them. When I say not to expect much does not mean you should not expect respect from your partner but what you get may be entirely different.

3. Expect to have fun, sex is great when you are young and so full of energy. Sex is great but many times the things that follow are not so great especially if your whole life changes because of it. Many times waiting to have sex can be a great benefit.

4. If you were brought up religious then you can expect to deal with guilt. Religion has some valid points as far as having sex with the same person all the time and never anyone else will keep you away from terrible diseases. Having sex with little kids is major wrong. Having sex with someone else’s husband or wife is wrong and look at the problems it causes.

5. If you are really sexually active expect to get pregnant because if you have sex 100 times the chances you will get pregnant are quite high even when you use a condom.

6. Don’t expect the father to stay with you and marry you and get a job and stay by your side. It is an unrealistic expectation. If he does and that is what you want then great.

7. Expect to have to decide whether to have an abortion, adopt the baby to some nice family or to keep the baby. Low figures state that you need at least 500-700 dollars more each month to pay for doctor visits, diapers, formula, clothes etc….Before you have sex ask yourself if you want this guy as the father of your kids.

8. Don’t expect a long term relationship, kids grow up and then change, they go off to college, get jobs, get married to other people and move on with their lives.

9. Most parents will tell you all the same things I have said and then you get sick of it because we say them over and over again. We screwed up and now we don’t want you to fuck up like we did. We don’t want you to have to go through all of the pain that we did. Expect PAIN.

10. Expect your parents to let you make your own mistakes and deal with them. Expect your parents to let you pay for your own school, own car insurance and your own bills.

11. Expect to be used if you let it happen. Expect to cry and be hurt because that will happen too. Does this mean you should not have teen relationships? No, just keep all these things in mind and set your limits so you don’t put yourself into dangerous situations.

12. I hope this blog was not too negative, even relationships when your older are hard and you will still deal with many of these same issues in your 20s and 30s but at least you will be able to deal with them easier rather than trying to deal with things while you’re still living with your parents and going to school.

If you answer yes to one or two of these once in a while then you’re still ok but if you answer yes to most of them you better start working on your relationship before it falls apart entirely. If your not married and your just bf or gf then these could be warning signs that a marriage may not work out too well unless major changes are made. 

1. Do normal discussions often turn into a fight?

2. Do you or your partner withdraw or refuse to talk about important issues?

3. Do you or your partner often disregard what the other says, or do you or your partner often use put downs?

4. Does it seem as if the things you say to your partner are often heard  much more negatively than you intended?

5. Do you feel that there has to be a winner and a loser when you disagree?

6. Does your relationship often take a backseat t other interests such as sports or other things?

7. Do you often think about what it would be like to be with someone else?

8. Does the thought of being with your partner a few years from now disturb you?

The love you should have for yourself - If we don’t respect ourselves we can’t love others with any real type of love.

There is the love you have for your pets (They depend on you)

The love you have for your parents… sometimes

The love you should have for your brother or sister duhhhh

The love you have for your cousins

The love you shouldn’t have for your cousins (ewwwwww)

The love a teacher has for the student and visa versa (not the one they get arrested for)

The love you have for your friends (Not your girl friends friends)

The love you have for your gf or bf ( or lust, just depending) 

The love you have for your future husband or wife (whether you have met them or not)

The love you have for your husband or wife

The love you have for your husband or wife after years of marriage (different level)

The love we have for our children (Even when they are in jail)

The love we should have for family

The love you should have for your neighbors

The love you should have or have with God and Christ

The love God and Christ have towards us

Whenever you spend enough time with someone you end up loving them in certain ways. Keep your love on the right level. Watch out who you spend time with because sometimes you end up loving people that might bring allot of problems into your life. Keep your eyes open.

1. You feel you need to change your lover. They have to want to change. Understand you can’t change anyone. Paranoid is not always bad because sometimes it just means aware. If you can’t stand the thought of loosing your lover yet you make excuses for him or her thinking they will eventually change for you don’t hold your breath.

2. You don’t completely trust your lover. (When trust is broken it takes time to build it back and in the meantime while your working on the relationship keep your eyes open because many times people that break your trust will do it again and again) Not saying you can build this type of relationship into true love but why try if they are not trying just as hard or harder than you are. Don’t waste your time on guys or girls that you have to fix because it won’t happen. If you keep finding things out that he or she lies about then “Get a clue” “Wake up”…..It might be that you want to stay in the relationship much more than they do and they just keep you as a backup. Don’t be anyone’s backup.

3. Your lover lies to you and then makes excuses for the lies or treats them like they were no big deal. This goes with the trust portion because lies will eat away at your relationship and create many more problems. When a lover is lies to you know that most of the time it is just the tip of the iceberg and many more things may lay hidden. Know that there are many girls or guys out there that don’t lie to their lovers and look for those type to fall in love with.

4. Breaks up with you and immediately starts dating other guys / girls and then decides they want to get back with you. You could be the one thing your lover feels is dependable so he or she always comes back to you. Unless you don’t mind being used like this get out of this type of relationship because it is not true love. True love is when each person cares so much about the other they sacrifice for them, it is a give and take but more give than take. True love is not selfish. If your the one doing all the giving then wake up.

5. Your lover doesn’t place you as a priority in his/her life. (Granted that work needs to be priority in order to keep a job and you can’t appear to be too needy either but when your in love you make time for your lover) Example: Would your lover walk 15 blocks in the rain if they did not have a ride just to see you? Would they take 2 buses if their car was broken down just to see you? If the answer is no then they might just be using you for sex….Wake up and don’t be used that way.Do you really need to find lip stick on the collar to know that he is cheating on you?

6. Your partner asks you to choose between them and family or friends. This type of love is not true love but includes elements of jealousy which is not a component of true love. Being aware and being jealous is different, one is keeping your eyes open and the other is over the top.

Is it love or Lust? Lust will not last like true love does…

One of the most confusing quasi-love feelings is lust. Lust is a very powerful, very intense feeling of physical attraction toward another person. Lust is mainly sexual in nature - the attraction is superficial based on instant chemistry rather than genuine caring. Usually we lust after people we do not know well, people we still feel comfortable fantasizing about. It is very common for people to confuse lust for love.

When a guy using the excuse that he is a guys and all guys cheat don’t buy it, all guys don’t cheat just the rotten ones.

When your really young you want to be FINDING out about sex

When your a teen you need to be FINDING a place for sex

When you get older you need to be FINDING time for sex

Myth: After a vasectomy, you ejaculate less fluid, which makes orgasm feel different.

Fact: Nearly all the seminal fluid you ejaculate comes from the seminal vesicle and the prostate, which aren’t affected by a vasectomy. Sperm accounts for an infinitesimal amount of semen. It’s impossible to notice a difference.